The First Step

Sometimes it’s hard to take the step that will take us to the next level in our lives. Majority of the time it’s driven by fear or the comfortability that causes us to be resistant to change. Despite the cause, it is mandatory to make executive decisions when it comes to your life and your well being. Never get too comfortable or stuck in the same position that will stunt your growth. New levels will always require a different version of you. Decision making and timing will always be a major factor required for growth. Growth is never ending so keep growing. Procrastination is real and a downfall that a lot of us turn the blind eye to. We tend to move hesitantly and ponder on the uncertainty of the outcome of the decisions we desire to make. Therefore, we battle our thoughts and decisions internally instead of making an impactful decision that could change our lives forever. Imagine coming to the realization of what is required to improve your chances in life but you’re afraid. Instead you continue to accept things for what they are and live with uneasiness because you know you deserve better. The power lies within you, your efforts and your desire to win. Thinking and saying are totally different than actually taking the initiative to do something. The thoughts and desires you have will never manifest if you’re afraid to try. We’ve all been there so it’s relatable to many. All it takes is a step in the right direction. Whether it’s stepping out on faith walking towards your dreams or taking a step back to reevaluate your life. Taking the proper step can be an addition or subtraction to your life in the sense of chances and opportunities. The step taken is related to the things and people within your surroundings. Be content throughout the path you choose. You may fail a time or two and even be misguided but in the end the journey is well worth it.

Message of the Day

What you put out into the universe sets the tone for your entire life. The thoughts you have revolves around your every move. If you train yourself to believe you’re incapable then guess what? You are. If you speak positive affirmations over your life and you’re determined to succeed then guess what? You will. It’s all mental. Only speak of blessings and positivity over your life while taking the good with the bad. You’re stronger and more powerful than you know; you just have to believe it. Words are powerful, so just make sure what you speak reflects upon your desires in life. Often times our dreams and aspirations exceed what we can envision. Therefore, when the picture is bigger than our reality we lose sight of it all. Outsiders will come along and analyze our lives from their own perspective. Take heed to the observations but do not allow it to solely steer you in the opposite direction and take you off your course. It’s mandatory to stand firm within your position when it comes to your life. Self value and self love is the greatest forms of love we as individuals can have. Reach for the stars knowing that sky is the limit even if it’s not visible at this point in time. All it takes is one moment or one opportunity to change things.

Message of the Day 8/18

Life comes at you fast and we never know when something will have a everlasting affect or if when it will all abruptly come to an end. Some of us operate as if we have all the time in the world but unfortunately that isn’t the case. The tomorrow we often speak of may never come; the I will get to it later may never occur. Take advantage of the moment and live in such a manner where we are racing against time; while believing that time waits for no one.

Find time to work towards accomplishing your goals, facing your fears and spending time with those in your life that matters the most. In the midst of life and all the responsibilities that comes with it, make time for your family and friends. Never miss the chance to tell someone you love them or express how you feel.

Do not hesitate to try new things. Push fear to the side and take chances. Take a chance on yourself. That goal you set at the beginning of the year that you may have pushed to the side, reevaluate and execute. Still want to pursue a new health kick? Go for it. Don’t allow the opinions of others stand in the way of your vision over your life. You don’t need a fresh week or new month to start, the time is now.

There will be times where you have absolutely no one in your corner. However, don’t allow the lack of people that root for you to stop you from living and going after what your heart desires. Learn to separate yourself from the outside world expectations and go for what you know. If you’re passionate about something you wish to achieve then remain focused. Distractions will occur but that is just apart of the process. Don’t be discouraged, be encouraged

The Power of Emotions

Sometimes we let our emotions get the very best of us. Our emotions have a way of affecting our moods at the drop of a dime. The key in life is to control our emotions but sometimes that’s inevitable. Emotions are a perfect representation of self control. Having the ability to control our emotions is imperative because it reflects our actions. Anger, happiness, grieve and sadness is all a trickle effect of our emotions and how we choose to express them. Each individual emotion is triggered by either by yourself, others and the things you experience. I’ve had quite the battle with my emotions over the last few months. My emotions basically overpowered my life in a way it hasn’t in awhile. No desire to create, no desire to do anything productive outside of work. It got to the point where I just wanted my husband and kids near. I didn’t even want my babies to even go outside and play. Why? Fear.

At the end of March, I had a family member that I was very close to pass away unexpectedly and it really took my family by surprise. I’ve lost a lot of family members over the years and I managed to do a great job suppressing my emotions so that I wouldn’t struggle with the aftermath. I admit that isn’t the best way to handle things but it worked for me.

However, that day all the emotions I buried over the years suddenly came to past and I could not shake them. I went back and mourned my mom’s death who passed away over 10 years ago. I mourned when it happened but not in a way I should have to release all the emotions I was feeling. I mourned other family members who recently passed as well. During that timeframe I no longer had control. My emotions overpowered anything I tried to accomplish in order to get myself back on course. I wasn’t sleeping well and I would find myself deep in thought about all that had transpired and how it affected me. I would often think who would be next? There was a dark cloud surrounding my life and I just could not get out of this funk.

Fast forward to two months later, while still coping with the loss of one member I lost another one. My cousin who was only 22 years old with a newborn baby was murdered. Murdered on his own doorstep. This one cut deep and once again left me drowning in my emotions. This loss was a different type of hurt because I could not understand why. Why would someone be so heartless to take someone’s life over a materialistic gain? Why would someone take a first time father from their newborn son? His friends, his family and his significant other. No way was my family mourning another loss so soon. The pieces I attempted to put back together in strive to regain my happiness was put on hold once again.

Not only am I dealing with things that are happening within my own family, but my small community as well. The increase in gun violence and the amount of deaths that are occurring from it. The more I am away from home the better I feel. While I know there is violence all around, I no longer feel safe in a place where I was born and raised due to the recent events. There is no security within my comfortability of knowing that someone who took my cousin’s life and so many others that have committed murders are still walking around free. The lack of value that others place on the lives of their peers is sickening. I prefer to avoid the news and certain things just for the sake of my sanity.

Despite the challenges I am facing with my emotions, I am making it my mission to get back to where I need to be. I am dealing with my emotions in a way where I will not let them get the very best of me. Life is to be lived for as long as we are blessed to do so. Life can change at any given moment, so I have to embrace all that comes with it and find a way to push through it. When we allow our emotions to become a hinderance we only suffer in the end. One day and one step at a time is the only way to get past anything in life; for that very reason I am a work in progress.

Protect Your Energy

Stop giving others the power over your emotions. Every time you feed into the negativity the other person wins. Seeing you fret is fulfillment for some. Don’t allow anyone to see you sweat. Move through life with intention and a purpose at all times. Don’t be a victim to the next persons circumstances. While It’s easy to become distracted with the things surrounding you; you have to remain focused. If you feed into all of the things that arises that’s destined to take you off your course then you lose control. Your power lies within the self control you possess when distractions occur. Making conscious decisions represents your will power when conflict is involved. Situations will transpire but that does not mean it deserves your attention or a reaction. However if you choose to; react and respond accordingly while preserving your energy and remaining in charge.

Message of the Day 3/21

You ever wonder why certain people find it hard to be genuine in showing love and support? It’s because everything is a comparison and or competition. If you’ve been working hard, taking chances and trying to get to a place with stability in your life it may be difficult to be happy for the next person if you feel they are undeserving; but how can you justify that? All we see is the outcome. We never take in consideration the depths an individual had to go through in order to finally get to where they want to be in life. That’s when assumptions take over.

Learn to celebrate and support others without a motive. Be selfless and considerate. Another person’s shine and accomplishments has nothing to do with your journey and capabilities. When the time is right, you will flourish in every aspect of your life. Supporting others will never take away from what is destined to be in your life. In my opinion, the world would be a better place if we found happiness in seeing others shine instead of showing disdain because success didn’t reach us first. I find myself inspired by those around me who are doing great things;I use it as motivation to push harder.

Totally disregard those who make other individuals feel less than because they have yet to reach the point they want to be in life. Instead of downing someone think of ways you can give them a lending hand. Whether it be through knowledge, connections or guidance; we have the power to uplift one another instead looking the other way. I understand that you can not have this approach with everyone especially if they have taken opportunities for granted in the past. However, showing unity and spreading love is such a wonderful feeling!

I Can and I Will…

The biggest push and setback we experience as individuals is the ability to believe in our capabilities and self motivation from within to get to where you want to be. It takes a lot of courage to inspire and believe in yourself throughout it all. Yes ,having support from others who push you to strive for the best and remain in your corner along your journey is great; but how you motivate yourself says all. Having the I can and I will mentality is what burns the fire within to strive for greatness. This post was inspired by a conversation I had in the mirror the other day. I don’t know about anyone else but I have a whole bathroom routine prior to beginning and ending my day lol. Anyway that’s a story for another day. Right now I want to take the time to share my most recent self motivation conversation. Check it out and let me know what you think. I hope it’s relatable and can inspire someone.

I can push myself to do what others consider the impossible

I will get up everyday with a purpose to work on my goals; my attitude will reflect positivity therefore I will get it done

I can put the pieces together when required

I will remain conscious of everything and everyone surrounding me

I can defeat the odds that’s stacked against me

I will prosper in all areas necessary to succeed

I can grow in ways that I’ve only dreamed of

When life gets me down I will rise above and not allow my failures to defeat me

I can accomplish anything I put my mind to

I will remain rebellious despite my circumstances

I can serve as an inspiration to those around me

I will use my journey as a stepping stone to surpass my goals


I will EXCEL

I can build and strengthen my foundation with everyday that I am given

I will take advantage of every opportunity that comes my way

I can capitalize because my determination to win triumphs my inability to give up

I will remain strong and fight for what’s mine

I can reach new levels

I will accept my flaws and embrace my shortcomings

I can improve in areas I show weakness

I will follow and lead by example

I can conquer my greatest fears with consistency and hard work

I will live with a sense of direction

I can navigate the direction that I can control

I will accept all the things that I cannot control

I can be the voice of reason within when I have self doubt

I will love myself enough not to accept anything less than what I deserve

I can do it and I will do it as simple as put and so can you