I’ll be the first to admit that I lack the will power to be at a standstill for an extended period of time. Life is very busy and hectic at times. I’m a wife, a mother of 3 and I work full time. There is always something to do during the week with balancing work, school, household duties and extra-circular activities. Most days are 18-hour days with a minimum amount of sleep. I’ve always been the type of individual that doesn’t require much sleep so 5-6 hours a day works well. However, there are days where I am physically and emotionally drained with the day to day activities. A lot of times we focus so much on completing tasks and taking care of our families that we neglect ourselves by not getting the proper rest to restore our mind and body. It is imperative to take a step back to prioritize our own self-care. A fresh and well rested mind inspires you to want to accomplish even more which will only end up being beneficial. Just like we make the time to catch up on the latest news via social media we should allocate the time to get in tune with ourselves. Think about a time where you were agitated and bothered by the slightest things. Lack of rest and restoration influences our mood and energy. The next time you wake up in the morning, instead of grabbing your phone, take 10 minutes to relax in complete silence before starting your day. At the end of the day dedicate at least 15-20 minutes to decompress from all the events of the day. My goal is to accomplish this at least once a day but honestly most days I fail with being consistent. I am continuously a work in progress when it comes to taking the time out for myself. One of my goals for the new year is having ME time at least once a month. Remember that our families depend on us but in order for us to be healthy and fully available we must take care of ourselves first.
Living in an imperfect world we all strive to be “perfect” in a sense. Sometimes we critique the smallest things that can lead us to think that we are not doing enough. The problem with us being our biggest critic is that we view the world in the eyes of others and the picture society paints for us therefore, perception becomes everything. Every day that you’re living will be a day to strive towards improvement. The process of growing as an individual will be a lifelong battle. The ultimate satisfaction comes from documenting your progress along the way so that you can appreciate just how far you’ve come. The baby steps we often take for granted are always a step in the right direction whether we are in acceptance of it or not. Embrace your flaws and all of your shortcomings as they are the makings of you. Most importantly, learn to disregard judgement from yourself and others. How can you prosper if you continue to speak negativity into existence? So do away with it. You can and you will get to where you want to be. All you have to do is continue putting in the work and believe.
Always be cautious of the people you have in your inner circle and who you associate yourself with. Jealously and greed can come in the form of a supporter. Fake love often isn’t disguised it can be detected in plain sight. When the love is real it comes natural and is rarely forced. People will publicly root for you then prey on your downfall out of your presence. Whenever you focus on bettering yourself the enemy becomes busy in attempt to self destruct the things you’ve worked so hard for. As long as your team is sincere there is nothing or no one that can stop your movement.
The term “thirsty” is often associated with individuals seeking attention by going out of their way to make their presence known. Im sure we’ve all encountered someone that fits this description. However, instead of being thirsty for attention, I would advise you to be thirsty for all the things that will add value to your life.
Be thirsty for success. Be thirsty to put you and your family in a better position. Be thirsty about creating a legacy that will generate endless possibilities for the years to come. Be thirsty for god’s grace. Be thirsty for the strength and courage to face the ways of the world on a daily basis. Be thirsty for knowledge, patience and understanding. Be thirsty for stability and consistency. Be thirsty for self love and self care. Be thirsty for new opportunities and development. Be thirsty for a overall better version of yourself.
At this point you get the picture as the list can go on and on.The sole purpose of this message is for us to focus, put our time, energy and effort into becoming more efficient as a person. Most importantly to do away with wasting time on anything that mentally drains you or place a strain in your life. Take advantage of all the available resources around you to expand your brand then allow your accomplishments to quench your thirst.
For the last few years, at the end of each year I sit down and create a vision board. The vision board consist of graphical images based on the things I would like to accomplish for the upcoming year. While I admit I did not accomplish everything on my vision board, I accomplished the majority of them. Some things are repeats that I’ve once again failed to achieve. When I think about those “carryovers,” I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s simply from the failure to try. Failure to put forth the effort to at least get the process started. It’s a difference when you can acknowledge your shortcomings versus making excuses. So that’s my truth.
The biggest goal was to live life without fear and travel more. I wanted to go after all the things I’ve been putting on the back burner for years. First up was a trip out of the states. For our 10th year wedding anniversary my husband and I went to Bermuda. Oh the beauty we were surrounded by was surreal and such a wonderful experience.
Next up was my 1st visit to Toronto Canada. Although it was a business trip for work I was still able to explore the city.
NEW YORK CITY
My favorite trip of the year easily was New York City. I’ve envisioned visiting NY every since high school, however when 9/11 hit I vowed to never visit. Well since I was on my “yolo” vibe all year I finally put the fear to the side and went for it.
So there you have it my travel highlights.
I’ve been in love with writing for as long as I can remember. I’ve written a collection of poems and songs over the years. The difference in back then and now is my desire to share my writing which is why I created this blog. I wanted a platform where I could share my thoughts and views. I am happy with my growth since going live last month. Going into the new year my plan is to grow a larger audience and connect with more people.
Biggest Lesson Learned
One of my biggest lessons learned this year is that despite our circumstances we have the power to conquer and overcome. This was simply more of a realization and acceptance more than anything for me. I’ve learned to embrace and accept the things that I can not change while continuing to work towards self improvement.
A Special Thank You
I just want to give a special thank you for all of you who have taken the time out to visit my page, read a post and leave a comment. The love is greatly appreciated. With that being said I would like to wish each and everyone of you a very Happy and Prosperous New Year.
As I think back on my life I can’t count the number of times I’ve talked myself out of doing something I really desired and wanted to accomplish. Majority of times fear stood in the way or the lack of willingness on my part to put forth my best effort. A lot of times we get so caught up with the possibilities of the outcome that we fail see things through. When you think about the steps involved in making something happen it may cause you to dead an idea before bringing it to light.
The next level of your life may require you to disconnect from certain things and people in order to get to where you strive to be and that’s ok. It’s the price you pay during self improvement in order to better yourself. Don’t feel bad about what you have to leave behind. Not everyone or everything is meant to be apart of your journey especially if isn’t adding value to your life.
Switch things up often. Practice spontaneity, explore your surroundings, seek new connections and knowledge. The world is so much bigger than the proximity we grew up in. There is so much to experience, we just have to be willing to take advantage of all the world has to offer.
When it’s all said and done be sure you’re content with your actions and the results that come from it. Believe that you’re deserving and you’re already half way there.
Acceptance can be difficult depending on the aspect surrounding the situation(s). A lot of time we are in denial or disregard the plain truths when in reality the issue at hand is coming to terms with it. When it comes to acceptance the variance is wide spread. Let’s take yourself for instance, you are the first one to take awareness of the changes that takes place within your life but the last one to accept it for what it really is. In order to make changes for improvement you MUST first face the truth. Stop running from your problems and making excuses. Once that happens then its time to hold yourself or the people involved accountable. Take the necessary steps to resolve the loose ends that you’ve been avoiding for so long. If you want to see change then your actions has to be reflective of that vision in order to contribute to the process. You have the power and you have the control when it comes to the direction of your life and the people involved. Take the wheel and steer it towards the right path.
Sometimes we get caught up thinking that happiness is based upon the materialistic things we have in life. Yes it’s required for us to have the basic necessities in order to survive but don’t put too much emphasis on the things that you “want” and currently don’t have. Differentiating and fully understanding the significance of our wants and needs can be a constant battle. Often times the things we want aren’t the things we need and we can definitely do without. It is important to be grateful and thankful for all those things around you that add value to your life that are free. Stop stressing about the things that are appealing to the eye instead appreciate what you do have. When your season arrives it will consist of everything that’s meant for you. Until then embrace the now as things could be a lot worst.