Message of the Day

Sometimes “failure” is inevitable. When we fall short of something we want to accomplish it doesn’t mean we’re incapable. It just means at that current time we didn’t have the means to reach our greatest potential whether it being the lack of knowledge or resources. That’s the beauty of not giving up and trying over and over again until we finally get it right. You may not succeed the first time but the second go round you’re able to develop a plan to take a different course of action. Just remember if it’s worth it, it won’t always come easy. Keep the faith and keep hope alive. The only way to triumph is to never give up.

THE ASPECTS OF LOVE… LOVE IS

Love is so much more than a feeling or physical attraction.

Love is a connection on deeper levels

Love is patience, love is selfless and love ever evolving

Love is a process that requires work and dedication like anything else in order to grow

Love is strengthened through communication

Love is being considerate

Love is building a foundation and support system

Love forms a team that wants to see one another win

Love is caring for someone just as much as your care for yourself

Love brings out the best in you

Love go through different phrases

Love is commitment on a higher level

Love is a union that transforms into a partnership

Love lifts you up instead of tearing you down

Love is a learning process and love is an adjustment

Love is NOT perfect but with the right individual love is certainly worth it

Love is acceptance and embracing your flaws

Love is prioritizing your wants and your needs

Love is a compromise

Love involves self-care and self-honesty

Love is an appreciation

Love is a whole lot of things but love from another shouldn’t define you

The love you possess for yourself should carry you even amid your darkest times

Love evolves around the stability of your well being

Love doesn’t come with a handbook so there is no concrete direction

Love simply comes from living and learning

Learn to love and improve yourself before you attempt perfection for someone else

THE DEPTHS OF HONESTY

Today’s topic is honesty. Oh how much better the world would be if we all were honest with not only ourselves but others as well.

When you think of honesty what comes to mind? For me, honesty is being very expressive whether it’s with words or with actions. Honesty is a representation of one’s character and beliefs. I’m sure we’ve all heard of or maybe even used the saying “I lie to you because I love you or I didn’t want to hurt you” right? This is partially true and I am guilty of being on the other end of the spectrum a time or two in my life. While we may think we are protecting someone by hiding the truth it only causes more damage in end to both parties involved.

The reality is the truth hurts far less than a lie; especially if it’s coming from someone that you love and trust. The fear of not being honest often times come from a person’s inability to accept their truth for what it is and be selfless. We often think that fabricating the truth will spare a person’s feelings. However, you must ask yourself Is sparing someone’s feelings more important than having the decency and respect to be an upstanding individual regardless of the outcome? Instead we focus more on our own guilt and karma than the consideration of the affects our actions may cause. The fear of the repercussions plays a major role as well.

 

Self-Honesty

Now switching gears to self-honesty. Personally, I think the most difficult aspect of honesty is being honest with ourselves. Self-honesty is essential when it comes to the overall growth of an individual. Now how many of us are willing to admit that we’ve run from the truth at some point in our life? *Hands up* ✋🏾 Yes, I am guilty of this as well. The hardest part about self-honesty is acceptance. Whether it’s the realization that it’s time to move on from certain situations, dealing with emotional or physical traits, or anything else that may be stopping you from reaching new heights. In most cases this is when it’s imperative for someone on the outside looking in to bring awareness to your faults. It is easy to train our minds to ignore our own voice even when we look in the mirror. The different perspectives through our eyes versus others creates the happy medium required for validation. We must learn to embrace our truths while remaining positive in knowing that anything is subject to change.

The Outcome

The outcome of our truth is typically the main reason we avoid expressing or acknowledging it. Not everyone will be receptive to hearing the truth. It all depends on the extent of the situation that makes it difficult to process. Dishonesty can become a hindrance for some. If the news cuts deep enough it can further lead to the inability to trust, causing issues with future companionships and self love. All it takes is for one bad experience to have an everlasting affect. The time is now to choose to be genuine, considerate and clear with your communication. Avoid prolonging the inevitable and allow your conscience to be free.

NEVER GIVE UP OR LOSE FAITH

No matter our upbringing, or walks of life no one is exempt from hard times. Life can be on the up and up with everything going great then BOOM, life happens;The unexpected transpires. Your hardship may come in the form of a financial, physical, emotional or spiritual aspect. Things can get pretty low especially with coming to the terms with the current events you’re faced with.

Sometimes life gets the very best of us. It may seem like no matter how many steps you take in the right direction something or even someone always come along to knock you down in the process. In those moments we may tend to lose all hope and faith. We often think that trials and tribulations are put in place to hinder us, when in reality they are meant to mold and strengthen us into better individuals. Despite the hardships we may face in life, never lose hope or never lose faith. There is a lesson to be learned from everything that we go through.

Be patience with knowing that in due time things will improve for the better. Remain grateful and thankful even when the bigger picture isn’t visible. Don’t let the ways of the world leave you uninspired and defeated. Continue to release positive vibes out into the universe so that you can remain undefeated within your purpose. Life is not defined by the amount of things that happens to us, it is defined by our ability to overcome and prevail.

Downtime (Rest and Restore)

I’ll be the first to admit that I lack the will power to be at a standstill for an extended period of time. Life is very busy and hectic at times. I’m a wife, a mother of 3 and I work full time. There is always something to do during the week with balancing work, school, household duties and extra-circular activities. Most days are 18-hour days with a minimum amount of sleep. I’ve always been the type of individual that doesn’t require much sleep so 5-6 hours a day works well. However, there are days where I am physically and emotionally drained with the day to day activities. A lot of times we focus so much on completing tasks and taking care of our families that we neglect ourselves by not getting the proper rest to restore our mind and body. It is imperative to take a step back to prioritize our own self-care. A fresh and well rested mind inspires you to want to accomplish even more which will only end up being beneficial. Just like we make the time to catch up on the latest news via social media we should allocate the time to get in tune with ourselves. Think about a time where you were agitated and bothered by the slightest things. Lack of rest and restoration influences our mood and energy. The next time you wake up in the morning, instead of grabbing your phone, take 10 minutes to relax in complete silence before starting your day. At the end of the day dedicate at least 15-20 minutes to decompress from all the events of the day. My goal is to accomplish this at least once a day but honestly most days I fail with being consistent. I am continuously a work in progress when it comes to taking the time out for myself. One of my goals for the new year is having ME time at least once a month. Remember that our families depend on us but in order for us to be healthy and fully available we must take care of ourselves first. 

Live In The Moment

Sometimes we dwell on the past and things we can’t change a little too much. Instead of living in the moment we’re too busy looking back and looking ahead. Yes it’s imperative that we prepare for our future but let’s not wish our lives away in the process. We must learn to bask in every moment we’re given with that thought process that it can end at any given moment. Let’s all start by being appreciative for TODAY!

Embrace Your Imperfections

Living in an imperfect world we all strive to be “perfect” in a sense. Sometimes we critique the smallest things that can lead us to think that we are not doing enough. The problem with us being our biggest critic is that we view the world in the eyes of others and the picture society paints for us therefore, perception becomes everything. Every day that you’re living will be a day to strive towards improvement. The process of growing as an individual will be a lifelong battle. The ultimate satisfaction comes from documenting your progress along the way so that you can appreciate just how far you’ve come. The baby steps we often take for granted are always a step in the right direction whether we are in acceptance of it or not. Embrace your flaws and all of your shortcomings as they are the makings of you. Most importantly, learn to disregard judgement from yourself and others. How can you prosper if you continue to speak negativity into existence? So do away with it. You can and you will get to where you want to be. All you have to do is continue putting in the work and believe.

Fake Love

Always be cautious of the people you have in your inner circle and who you associate yourself with. Jealously and greed can come in the form of a supporter. Fake love often isn’t disguised it can be detected in plain sight. When the love is real it comes natural and is rarely forced. People will publicly root for you then prey on your downfall out of your presence. Whenever you focus on bettering yourself the enemy becomes busy in attempt to self destruct the things you’ve worked so hard for. As long as your team is sincere there is nothing or no one that can stop your movement.

Are You Thirsty Enough?

The term “thirsty” is often associated with individuals seeking attention by going out of their way to make their presence known. Im sure we’ve all encountered someone that fits this description. However, instead of being thirsty for attention, I would advise you to be thirsty for all the things that will add value to your life.

Be thirsty for success. Be thirsty to put you and your family in a better position. Be thirsty about creating a legacy that will generate endless possibilities for the years to come. Be thirsty for god’s grace. Be thirsty for the strength and courage to face the ways of the world on a daily basis. Be thirsty for knowledge, patience and understanding. Be thirsty for stability and consistency. Be thirsty for self love and self care. Be thirsty for new opportunities and development. Be thirsty for a overall better version of yourself.

At this point you get the picture as the list can go on and on.The sole purpose of this message is for us to focus, put our time, energy and effort into becoming more efficient as a person. Most importantly to do away with wasting time on anything that mentally drains you or place a strain in your life. Take advantage of all the available resources around you to expand your brand then allow your accomplishments to quench your thirst.

Cheers to 2019!!!

It’s a year new which means for some of us new goals and new opportunities. If you want to set goals for the new year then DO IT. Don’t allow anyone criticize you about wanting to better yourself going into the new year. Forget their opinions and DO YOU.

Develop a vision, create a game plan then execute to turn that vision into a reality. Become a student of your craft to gain as much knowledge as you possibly can then push yourself until you can’t push anymore. Stay hungry for growth then watch all of your hard work manifest and surpass your wildest imagination . If you don’t believe in yourself then who will? Stop allowing other people to put their fear off on your dreams and aspirations. God will put you in the position but it’s up to you to put in the work and ignore the negativity.

Things will never go the exact way you want them to, However don’t allow that to discourage you and keep you from going after whatever it is you want to accomplish. Put in the work, keep the faith. Best believe everything will work out just how it’s supposed to in the end. 2019 lets shift our focus, leave the fear behind and invest in ourselves. Time waits for no one so take advantage of it while you still can. LETS GO!

Reflections of 2018

For the last few years, at the end of each year I sit down and create a vision board. The vision board consist of graphical images based on the things I would like to accomplish for the upcoming year. While I admit I did not accomplish everything on my vision board, I accomplished the majority of them. Some things are repeats that I’ve once again failed to achieve. When I think about those “carryovers,” I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s simply from the failure to try. Failure to put forth the effort to at least get the process started. It’s a difference when you can acknowledge your shortcomings versus making excuses. So that’s my truth.

The biggest goal was to live life without fear and travel more. I wanted to go after all the things I’ve been putting on the back burner for years. First up was a trip out of the states. For our 10th year wedding anniversary my husband and I went to Bermuda. Oh the beauty we were surrounded by was surreal and such a wonderful experience.

BERMUDA

Taking in my surroundings 
Grotto Bay Resort 

Crystal Caves 
View from our room
Cave Spa. The massages were great!

TORONTO CANADA 

Next up was my 1st visit to Toronto Canada. Although it was a business trip for work I was still able to explore the city. 

Views from the top of the CN Tower

CN Tower 

NEW YORK CITY

My favorite trip of the year easily was New York City. I’ve envisioned visiting NY every since high school, however when 9/11 hit I vowed to never visit. Well since I was on my “yolo” vibe all year I finally put the fear to the side and went for it.  

One World Trade Center 

Empire State Building
Statue of Liberty 
Times Square
View at the top of the Empire State Building 

So there you have it my travel highlights. 

BLOG

I’ve been in love with writing for as long as I can remember. I’ve written a collection of poems and songs over the years. The difference in back then and now is my desire to share my writing which is why I created this blog. I wanted a platform where I could share my thoughts and views. I am happy with my growth since going live last month. Going into the new year my plan is to grow a larger audience and connect with more people.

Biggest Lesson Learned

One of my biggest lessons learned this year is that despite our circumstances we have the power to conquer and overcome. This was simply more of a realization and acceptance more than anything for me. I’ve learned to embrace and accept the things that I can not change while continuing to work towards self improvement.

A Special Thank You

I just want to give a special thank you for all of you who have taken the time out to visit my page, read a post and leave a comment. The love is greatly appreciated. With that being said I would like to wish each and everyone of you a very Happy and Prosperous New Year.

Willingness

As I think back on my life I can’t count the number of times I’ve talked myself out of doing something I really desired and wanted to accomplish. Majority of times fear stood in the way or the lack of willingness on my part to put forth my best effort. A lot of times we get so caught up with the possibilities of the outcome that we fail see things through. When you think about the steps involved in making something happen it may cause you to dead an idea before bringing it to light. 

The next level of your life may require you to disconnect from certain things and people in order to get to where you strive to be and that’s ok. It’s the price you pay during self improvement in order to better yourself. Don’t feel bad about what you have to leave behind. Not everyone or everything is meant to be apart of your journey especially if isn’t adding value to your life. 

Switch things up often. Practice spontaneity, explore your surroundings, seek new connections and knowledge. The world is so much bigger than the proximity we grew up in. There is so much to experience, we just have to be willing to take advantage of all the world has to offer.

When it’s all said and done be sure you’re content with your actions and the results that come from it. Believe that you’re deserving and you’re already half way there.