Fourth Quarter

Last quarter of the year is here. What are you doing to prepare and finish the year with a bang? How has the last 9 months of the year prepared you for this point? Has it been difficult to get on track? Or are you crushing it when it comes to your goals? Whatever the case may be the time is now to kick it up a notch. The past is behind us and the present is here and the year is coming to an end. Time to prepare for the new year. Revisit the goals that were set at the beginning of the year. Reevaluate those goals and redirect your focus back to where it needs to be. I’ll admit, I took a look at my vision board and I was disappointed to say the least. Disappointed that majority of the things I failed to accomplish thus far was due to my own lack of effort.

Often times life gets in the way then you have to pick and choose which priorities are more important. Time management, dedication and determination plays a major role which is why personally I take full responsibility for the shortcomings. Now that the problem area has been discovered it’s time to get to work. Creating a podcast has been a goal of mine for 2 years now. Refusing to have a another goal carry over to the new year, I decided enough with the procrastination and actually took a leap in the right direction. October 4th, 2019 I published my very first episode. Please feel free to check it out here. (https://anchor.fm/unfiltered-views-podcast).

The feeling of excitement to finally gather the courage to release it was so fulfilling. I discovered that I was standing in my own way. The moment you decide to take a chance on yourself, it changes everything. We unknowingly stand in the way of our own growth and blessings due to being afraid of failure. Failure is the very thing that keeps us from reaching our full potential. From here on out we will not be defeated by fear. Take a chance on your dreams and desires in life. You never know where they may lead you. Proceed to walk by faith and not by sight. I’m rooting for you, now it’s time for you to root for yourself. You got this! Let’s finish 2019 with a bang giving our all.

Message of the Day

Your story may need to be told in order to help someone in need. Everyone need to know that they are not alone with the struggles they may face within their walks of life. Someone somewhere has a story similar to yours just variance within the circumstances. Don’t be afraid of your path because it’s apart of your history. Use your past as a stepping stone to look back and acknowledge exactly how far you’ve come. Be a witness to your testimony to embrace the things you’ve overcome. Be proud of the struggles you’ve faced over time. The struggles are only temporarily and a mold to your character. When I think back to my younger days I could have never imagined that I’ll be where I am today. While I still go through a lot, my ability to remain strong and get through it all is what keeps things in perspective. Life is filled with many unexpected events. How we react to the things that occur is what truly defines us. Our experiences in life can really make us or break us. Some things that are traumatizing, truth is we may never heal from it them. However in the midst of our darkest moments we have to find a way to move forward. Don’t be ashamed of your life story or where you came from. If your past isn’t the best part of your life, use it as your inspiration to create a better present and future. My past was dark but my future is bright! Shoutout to my past because it molded me and inspired me to plant the seeds to flourish into who I am today! Embrace your trials and tribulations because some things we simply do not have any control of. Please know that the way your story begins does not have to be the conclusion of how it all ends. For as long as you live, your story will be continuously in the making. Therefore live life in the movement and be thankful for your existence. Hard times doesn’t last forever. Learn to take the good with the bad. We are all just living our lives trying to find our way.

Message of the Day

Even when you’re passionate about your craft it’s easy to lose sight of the task at hand. Stuck between continuously improving and perfecting your craft , yet life gets in the way and throws you off track. When life happens that doesn’t mean you give up. It simply means you have to take time for yourself. Take the time to deal with issues as they arise. In a perfect world things would always flow accordingly but unfortunately that’s not always the case. We build shields around our emotions and expectations to protect our well being and peace of mind. Some are under the impression that by doing this it’s beneficial but honestly it doesn’t add value to the issue at hand. There will be things that occur that we’re not mentally prepared to get through. It is within these moments we learn so much about ourselves. Often times a different level of yourself is required to manage during the hard times. Dig deep for the strength. Conquer the silent battles and claim victory over your life. Finding balance in a world full of distractions, stereotypes, and criticisms can be a difficult task for anyone. Once you acknowledge that some things are simply out of your control you will find comfort in knowing that the struggle is only temporary. Challenges will occur that can cause friction that leads to the uncertainty of your purpose in life. However, despite the trials and tribulations it’s vital that you remain hopeful. May your faith remain strong and you trust and believe in the process. Life will be full of up and downs, failures and disappointments but we do not have to be defined by our shortcomings. Instead use them as the fuel to unite your fire in the stride for greatness. Your comeback will be more meaningful than anything you’ve been through. When the time comes just be sure you’re prepared to fully capitalize.

The First Step

Sometimes it’s hard to take the step that will take us to the next level in our lives. Majority of the time it’s driven by fear or the comfortability that causes us to be resistant to change. Despite the cause, it is mandatory to make executive decisions when it comes to your life and your well being. Never get too comfortable or stuck in the same position that will stunt your growth. New levels will always require a different version of you. Decision making and timing will always be a major factor required for growth. Growth is never ending so keep growing. Procrastination is real and a downfall that a lot of us turn the blind eye to. We tend to move hesitantly and ponder on the uncertainty of the outcome of the decisions we desire to make. Therefore, we battle our thoughts and decisions internally instead of making an impactful decision that could change our lives forever. Imagine coming to the realization of what is required to improve your chances in life but you’re afraid. Instead you continue to accept things for what they are and live with uneasiness because you know you deserve better. The power lies within you, your efforts and your desire to win. Thinking and saying are totally different than actually taking the initiative to do something. The thoughts and desires you have will never manifest if you’re afraid to try. We’ve all been there so it’s relatable to many. All it takes is a step in the right direction. Whether it’s stepping out on faith walking towards your dreams or taking a step back to reevaluate your life. Taking the proper step can be an addition or subtraction to your life in the sense of chances and opportunities. The step taken is related to the things and people within your surroundings. Be content throughout the path you choose. You may fail a time or two and even be misguided but in the end the journey is well worth it.

Message of the Day

What you put out into the universe sets the tone for your entire life. The thoughts you have revolves around your every move. If you train yourself to believe you’re incapable then guess what? You are. If you speak positive affirmations over your life and you’re determined to succeed then guess what? You will. It’s all mental. Only speak of blessings and positivity over your life while taking the good with the bad. You’re stronger and more powerful than you know; you just have to believe it. Words are powerful, so just make sure what you speak reflects upon your desires in life. Often times our dreams and aspirations exceed what we can envision. Therefore, when the picture is bigger than our reality we lose sight of it all. Outsiders will come along and analyze our lives from their own perspective. Take heed to the observations but do not allow it to solely steer you in the opposite direction and take you off your course. It’s mandatory to stand firm within your position when it comes to your life. Self value and self love is the greatest forms of love we as individuals can have. Reach for the stars knowing that sky is the limit even if it’s not visible at this point in time. All it takes is one moment or one opportunity to change things.

Message of the Day 8/18

Life comes at you fast and we never know when something will have a everlasting affect or if when it will all abruptly come to an end. Some of us operate as if we have all the time in the world but unfortunately that isn’t the case. The tomorrow we often speak of may never come; the I will get to it later may never occur. Take advantage of the moment and live in such a manner where we are racing against time; while believing that time waits for no one.

Find time to work towards accomplishing your goals, facing your fears and spending time with those in your life that matters the most. In the midst of life and all the responsibilities that comes with it, make time for your family and friends. Never miss the chance to tell someone you love them or express how you feel.

Do not hesitate to try new things. Push fear to the side and take chances. Take a chance on yourself. That goal you set at the beginning of the year that you may have pushed to the side, reevaluate and execute. Still want to pursue a new health kick? Go for it. Don’t allow the opinions of others stand in the way of your vision over your life. You don’t need a fresh week or new month to start, the time is now.

There will be times where you have absolutely no one in your corner. However, don’t allow the lack of people that root for you to stop you from living and going after what your heart desires. Learn to separate yourself from the outside world expectations and go for what you know. If you’re passionate about something you wish to achieve then remain focused. Distractions will occur but that is just apart of the process. Don’t be discouraged, be encouraged

The Power of Emotions

Sometimes we let our emotions get the very best of us. Our emotions have a way of affecting our moods at the drop of a dime. The key in life is to control our emotions but sometimes that’s inevitable. Emotions are a perfect representation of self control. Having the ability to control our emotions is imperative because it reflects our actions. Anger, happiness, grieve and sadness is all a trickle effect of our emotions and how we choose to express them. Each individual emotion is triggered by either by yourself, others and the things you experience. I’ve had quite the battle with my emotions over the last few months. My emotions basically overpowered my life in a way it hasn’t in awhile. No desire to create, no desire to do anything productive outside of work. It got to the point where I just wanted my husband and kids near. I didn’t even want my babies to even go outside and play. Why? Fear.

At the end of March, I had a family member that I was very close to pass away unexpectedly and it really took my family by surprise. I’ve lost a lot of family members over the years and I managed to do a great job suppressing my emotions so that I wouldn’t struggle with the aftermath. I admit that isn’t the best way to handle things but it worked for me.

However, that day all the emotions I buried over the years suddenly came to past and I could not shake them. I went back and mourned my mom’s death who passed away over 10 years ago. I mourned when it happened but not in a way I should have to release all the emotions I was feeling. I mourned other family members who recently passed as well. During that timeframe I no longer had control. My emotions overpowered anything I tried to accomplish in order to get myself back on course. I wasn’t sleeping well and I would find myself deep in thought about all that had transpired and how it affected me. I would often think who would be next? There was a dark cloud surrounding my life and I just could not get out of this funk.

Fast forward to two months later, while still coping with the loss of one member I lost another one. My cousin who was only 22 years old with a newborn baby was murdered. Murdered on his own doorstep. This one cut deep and once again left me drowning in my emotions. This loss was a different type of hurt because I could not understand why. Why would someone be so heartless to take someone’s life over a materialistic gain? Why would someone take a first time father from their newborn son? His friends, his family and his significant other. No way was my family mourning another loss so soon. The pieces I attempted to put back together in strive to regain my happiness was put on hold once again.

Not only am I dealing with things that are happening within my own family, but my small community as well. The increase in gun violence and the amount of deaths that are occurring from it. The more I am away from home the better I feel. While I know there is violence all around, I no longer feel safe in a place where I was born and raised due to the recent events. There is no security within my comfortability of knowing that someone who took my cousin’s life and so many others that have committed murders are still walking around free. The lack of value that others place on the lives of their peers is sickening. I prefer to avoid the news and certain things just for the sake of my sanity.

Despite the challenges I am facing with my emotions, I am making it my mission to get back to where I need to be. I am dealing with my emotions in a way where I will not let them get the very best of me. Life is to be lived for as long as we are blessed to do so. Life can change at any given moment, so I have to embrace all that comes with it and find a way to push through it. When we allow our emotions to become a hinderance we only suffer in the end. One day and one step at a time is the only way to get past anything in life; for that very reason I am a work in progress.