Stepping out my comfort zone is something I’ve always struggled with; I mean let’s face it, it’s comfortable and what we are accustomed to so it requires nothing more or nothing less. However, over the years I’ve learned that while I may be comfortable with the typical routines staying this way only puts my potential, life experiences and growth at a standstill.
In order for us expand our horizons we must widen our surroundings. Life has so much more to offer than the proximity you may be accustomed to. Keeping yourself boxed in is a comfort mechanism related to fear. We fear the unknown so therefore we try our best to avoid it. Some things in life are inevitable despite how hard we try steer clear of certain situations. It’s imperative to live life without limits. It’s the only way to develop stability by simply living. In order to grow and learn we have to make mistakes through experience. As a kid my parents would always give lectures about adulthood and all it would bring. I heard everything they said however it didn’t register until I reached adulthood and began experiencing things for myself.
Take a chance on yourself, don’t be afraid of the risk. You never will know the outcome if you fail to step out on faith. Do your very best to face your fears at least once. Pursue your dreams that’s only existed within. The outcome may be beneficial if you just put forth the effort. Nothing beats a failure but a try. Pursue the opportunities that will allow you to excel in all areas of life. Try something different outside the normal routine. Travel to a new destination even if you have to go alone. Explore the world and all it has to offer. Get in tune with yourself. Don’t always depend on someone to be there. Go have fun alone. Be you own motivation. Stop putting so much emphasis on others to inspire and help motivate you. What happens if they lose focus? Then you will suffer as well. We are capable of so much. Our life and the outcome of it is solely based around the actions we take or fail to take.
One of the hardest things about life is realizing and understanding when it’s time to move on. Sometimes our actions or even the actions of another lingers in our mind just a little too long. The thoughts we occupy in our brains turns into a battle of different scenarios, emotions and bitterness. Life is all about lessons, we live and we learn. Holding on to the past will never heal you or give you the closure you need. Move forward with the mentality that it will get better and it’s for the best that you let go. Only focus on the things you can control, for everything else will consistently be a losing battle within.
We all have things that are more than capable of hindering our will, desire and determination to make things happen; I get it. Majority of the time we force ourselves into believing we simply can not make the time to do the simple things. A few days ago, I was totally inspired by the effort I saw from fellow gym mate. As I was on the treadmill doing my cool down, I watched an elderly lady enter the gym. She was using a walker and was on a oxygen tank. I watched as she slowly made her way to one of the exercise machines to begin her workout. She placed her walker right beside her to store her oxygen tank but guess what? That did not stop her. I was in awe and instantly thought to myself seriously what’s your excuse? Why do I procrastinate at times instead of making it happen?
No matter the circumstances that could hold us back we should not allow anything to stop us from working and getting better. Even though her workout was slow and steady she was putting in the time and effort to get it done. Despite the slow process, progress was still being made. The key is to take it one step at a time. I left the gym that day motivated and inspired to have witness such grace. The next time you open your mouth to make an excuse you have to ask yourself
Am I physically and mentally capable of making it happen? If not what am I doing to improve my chances
Is my desire to succeed greater than my desire to make excuses?
Are the excuses I’m making adding value to my life or just putting it at a standstill ?
If I fail to go after my dreams, can I turn to someone else outside of my spouse to take care of my responsibilities in life? And if so is it fair to my family?
The last one is a kicker for me. I know in my heart that if I fail to be a dreamer, a believer and put in the work my family will be gravely affected.
Giving yourself the chance and opportunity to prosper is one the greatest gifts you can give.
At least put forth the effort and make the attempt. Just to be fair. I know this isn’t idea and relatable to everyone because we all have different things that may or may not be holding us back. However, before we can expect someone to give us a helping hand; we have to first extend the hand to ourselves. Keep the faith and keep hope alive. Turn your I can’t into I can and I will.
A love language is our very own unique way of being expressive in the manner in which we give and receive love. Love can be expressive through our actions, how we interact with others and conduct ourselves. A love language is more than the physical aspect of engaging with one another. Love is the energy we put into the universe and the affect it has on others.
A lot of people get so caught up in the materialistic aspect of love that they fail to realize that love comes in various forms. A dollar amount spent on material things doesn’t define a love. Giving a compliment, advice, or encouragement and genuinely caring about the wellbeing of others is a representation of love. Being active and attentive speak volumes. A love language is always receptive of the appreciation given from the receiving party. Instead of complaining, always try to be grateful and appreciative of those who at least attempt to show you they care. Sometimes we have our own perception of how love should be expressed then disregard the efforts being given.
The beauty of love languages is that they are different for every single one of us; some have good traits and others not so much. I truly believe that love languages stem way back to the beginning of time, which is our childhood. The love or lack of love we received from our immediate family, our peers inside and outside of the school was pivotal to our understanding and receiving of love.
As a child dealing with the lack of love often resulted in the constant desire to seek attention to fill the void that was missing. Even as an adult, some individuals find themselves chasing the things they never received growing up. Past experiences or the inexperience are the driven forces behind the way we interact others. The biggest burden we put upon ourselves is avoiding the past rather than attempting to heal and deal with those issues. This ultimately affects everyone we are connected to.
Have you ever stopped to evaluate your actions within your relationships?
There are so many different elements as to why we love in the way that we do or fail to love at all. Accountability involves identifying the trouble areas and making the conscious decisions to improve. Most importantly to become aware and acknowledge the fact that real love must first come from within before it can be distributed amongst others.
Whether you truly believe it or not we all have options
No situation is set in stone and has the ability to change
Whether it’s in your personal life, friendships, and relationships or even within the workplace
You have the power and freedom to voice your opinion and make the necessary adjustments
The worst thing we can do as individuals is to settle and accept less than what we deserve in all aspects of life
If it no longer serves you, you have the option to move on
Protect your wellbeing while keeping your best interest at heart
Not all decisions we make in life will reflect immediate change, but it shows substance
We must let go of the fear that we’re incapable of change due to our circumstances or the lack of resources
There will always be a better opportunity that awaits you
Exhaust all the possibilities the world has to offer
Ask for that raise or step out on faith to pursue your dreams
Sincere and loyal people still exist
Walk away from toxicity because it will destroy you
Choose your happiness above all
There will always be alternate routes you can take in order to get to the next level
Just because 1 thing fails; everything is not lost
Always keep your options open and know that you have the power over your life and not others
Sometimes “failure” is inevitable. When we fall short of something we want to accomplish it doesn’t mean we’re incapable. It just means at that current time we didn’t have the means to reach our greatest potential whether it being the lack of knowledge or resources. That’s the beauty of not giving up and trying over and over again until we finally get it right. You may not succeed the first time but the second go round you’re able to develop a plan to take a different course of action. Just remember if it’s worth it, it won’t always come easy. Keep the faith and keep hope alive. The only way to triumph is to never give up.
Love is so much more than a feeling or physical attraction.
Love is a connection on deeper levels
Love is patience, love is selfless and love ever evolving
Love is a process that requires work and dedication like anything else in order to grow
Love is strengthened through communication
Love is being considerate
Love is building a foundation and support system
Love forms a team that wants to see one another win
Love is caring for someone just as much as your care for yourself
Love brings out the best in you
Love go through different phrases
Love is commitment on a higher level
Love is a union that transforms into a partnership
Love lifts you up instead of tearing you down
Love is a learning process and love is an adjustment
Love is NOT perfect but with the right individual love is certainly worth it
Love is acceptance and embracing your flaws
Love is prioritizing your wants and your needs
Love is a compromise
Love involves self-care and self-honesty
Love is an appreciation
Love is a whole lot of things but love from another shouldn’t define you
The love you possess for yourself should carry you even amid your darkest times
Love evolves around the stability of your well being
Love doesn’t come with a handbook so there is no concrete direction
Love simply comes from living and learning
Learn to love and improve yourself before you attempt perfection for someone else