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Message of the Day 3/21
You ever wonder why certain people find it hard to be genuine in showing love and support? It’s because everything is a comparison and or competition. If you’ve been working hard, taking chances and trying to get to a place with stability in your life it may be difficult to be happy for the next person if you feel they are undeserving; but how can you justify that? All we see is the outcome. We never take in consideration the depths an individual had to go through in order to finally get to where they want to be in life. That’s when assumptions take over.
Learn to celebrate and support others without a motive. Be selfless and considerate. Another person’s shine and accomplishments has nothing to do with your journey and capabilities. When the time is right, you will flourish in every aspect of your life. Supporting others will never take away from what is destined to be in your life. In my opinion, the world would be a better place if we found happiness in seeing others shine instead of showing disdain because success didn’t reach us first. I find myself inspired by those around me who are doing great things;I use it as motivation to push harder.
Totally disregard those who make other individuals feel less than because they have yet to reach the point they want to be in life. Instead of downing someone think of ways you can give them a lending hand. Whether it be through knowledge, connections or guidance; we have the power to uplift one another instead looking the other way. I understand that you can not have this approach with everyone especially if they have taken opportunities for granted in the past. However, showing unity and spreading love is such a wonderful feeling!
I Can and I Will…
The biggest push and setback we experience as individuals is the ability to believe in our capabilities and self motivation from within to get to where you want to be. It takes a lot of courage to inspire and believe in yourself throughout it all. Yes ,having support from others who push you to strive for the best and remain in your corner along your journey is great; but how you motivate yourself says all. Having the I can and I will mentality is what burns the fire within to strive for greatness. This post was inspired by a conversation I had in the mirror the other day. I don’t know about anyone else but I have a whole bathroom routine prior to beginning and ending my day lol. Anyway that’s a story for another day. Right now I want to take the time to share my most recent self motivation conversation. Check it out and let me know what you think. I hope it’s relatable and can inspire someone.
I can push myself to do what others consider the impossible
I will get up everyday with a purpose to work on my goals; my attitude will reflect positivity therefore I will get it done
I can put the pieces together when required
I will remain conscious of everything and everyone surrounding me
I can defeat the odds that’s stacked against me
I will prosper in all areas necessary to succeed
I can grow in ways that I’ve only dreamed of
When life gets me down I will rise above and not allow my failures to defeat me
I can accomplish anything I put my mind to
I will remain rebellious despite my circumstances
I can serve as an inspiration to those around me
I will use my journey as a stepping stone to surpass my goals
I can PREVAIL
I will EXCEL
I can build and strengthen my foundation with everyday that I am given
I will take advantage of every opportunity that comes my way
I can capitalize because my determination to win triumphs my inability to give up
I will remain strong and fight for what’s mine
I can reach new levels
I will accept my flaws and embrace my shortcomings
I can improve in areas I show weakness
I will follow and lead by example
I can conquer my greatest fears with consistency and hard work
I will live with a sense of direction
I can navigate the direction that I can control
I will accept all the things that I cannot control
I can be the voice of reason within when I have self doubt
I will love myself enough not to accept anything less than what I deserve
I can do it and I will do it as simple as put and so can you
Message of the Day
Stepping out my comfort zone is something I’ve always struggled with; I mean let’s face it, it’s comfortable and what we are accustomed to so it requires nothing more or nothing less. However, over the years I’ve learned that while I may be comfortable with the typical routines staying this way only puts my potential, life experiences and growth at a standstill.
In order for us expand our horizons we must widen our surroundings. Life has so much more to offer than the proximity you may be accustomed to. Keeping yourself boxed in is a comfort mechanism related to fear. We fear the unknown so therefore we try our best to avoid it. Some things in life are inevitable despite how hard we try steer clear of certain situations. It’s imperative to live life without limits. It’s the only way to develop stability by simply living. In order to grow and learn we have to make mistakes through experience. As a kid my parents would always give lectures about adulthood and all it would bring. I heard everything they said however it didn’t register until I reached adulthood and began experiencing things for myself.
Take a chance on yourself, don’t be afraid of the risk. You never will know the outcome if you fail to step out on faith. Do your very best to face your fears at least once. Pursue your dreams that’s only existed within. The outcome may be beneficial if you just put forth the effort. Nothing beats a failure but a try. Pursue the opportunities that will allow you to excel in all areas of life. Try something different outside the normal routine. Travel to a new destination even if you have to go alone. Explore the world and all it has to offer. Get in tune with yourself. Don’t always depend on someone to be there. Go have fun alone. Be you own motivation. Stop putting so much emphasis on others to inspire and help motivate you. What happens if they lose focus? Then you will suffer as well. We are capable of so much. Our life and the outcome of it is solely based around the actions we take or fail to take.
Message of the Day
One of the hardest things about life is realizing and understanding when it’s time to move on. Sometimes our actions or even the actions of another lingers in our mind just a little too long. The thoughts we occupy in our brains turns into a battle of different scenarios, emotions and bitterness. Life is all about lessons, we live and we learn. Holding on to the past will never heal you or give you the closure you need. Move forward with the mentality that it will get better and it’s for the best that you let go. Only focus on the things you can control, for everything else will consistently be a losing battle within.
What’s Your Excuse?
We all have things that are more than capable of hindering our will, desire and determination to make things happen; I get it. Majority of the time we force ourselves into believing we simply can not make the time to do the simple things. A few days ago, I was totally inspired by the effort I saw from fellow gym mate. As I was on the treadmill doing my cool down, I watched an elderly lady enter the gym. She was using a walker and was on a oxygen tank. I watched as she slowly made her way to one of the exercise machines to begin her workout. She placed her walker right beside her to store her oxygen tank but guess what? That did not stop her. I was in awe and instantly thought to myself seriously what’s your excuse? Why do I procrastinate at times instead of making it happen?
No matter the circumstances that could hold us back we should not allow anything to stop us from working and getting better. Even though her workout was slow and steady she was putting in the time and effort to get it done. Despite the slow process, progress was still being made. The key is to take it one step at a time. I left the gym that day motivated and inspired to have witness such grace. The next time you open your mouth to make an excuse you have to ask yourself
Am I physically and mentally capable of making it happen? If not what am I doing to improve my chances
Is my desire to succeed greater than my desire to make excuses?
Are the excuses I’m making adding value to my life or just putting it at a standstill ?
If I fail to go after my dreams, can I turn to someone else outside of my spouse to take care of my responsibilities in life? And if so is it fair to my family?
The last one is a kicker for me. I know in my heart that if I fail to be a dreamer, a believer and put in the work my family will be gravely affected.
Giving yourself the chance and opportunity to prosper is one the greatest gifts you can give.
At least put forth the effort and make the attempt. Just to be fair. I know this isn’t idea and relatable to everyone because we all have different things that may or may not be holding us back. However, before we can expect someone to give us a helping hand; we have to first extend the hand to ourselves. Keep the faith and keep hope alive. Turn your I can’t into I can and I will.
Love Languages
A love language is our very own unique way of being expressive in the manner in which we give and receive love. Love can be expressive through our actions, how we interact with others and conduct ourselves. A love language is more than the physical aspect of engaging with one another. Love is the energy we put into the universe and the affect it has on others.
A lot of people get so caught up in the materialistic aspect of love that they fail to realize that love comes in various forms. A dollar amount spent on material things doesn’t define a love. Giving a compliment, advice, or encouragement and genuinely caring about the wellbeing of others is a representation of love. Being active and attentive speak volumes. A love language is always receptive of the appreciation given from the receiving party. Instead of complaining, always try to be grateful and appreciative of those who at least attempt to show you they care. Sometimes we have our own perception of how love should be expressed then disregard the efforts being given.
The beauty of love languages is that they are different for every single one of us; some have good traits and others not so much. I truly believe that love languages stem way back to the beginning of time, which is our childhood. The love or lack of love we received from our immediate family, our peers inside and outside of the school was pivotal to our understanding and receiving of love.
As a child dealing with the lack of love often resulted in the constant desire to seek attention to fill the void that was missing. Even as an adult, some individuals find themselves chasing the things they never received growing up. Past experiences or the inexperience are the driven forces behind the way we interact others. The biggest burden we put upon ourselves is avoiding the past rather than attempting to heal and deal with those issues. This ultimately affects everyone we are connected to.
Have you ever stopped to evaluate your actions within your relationships?
- How do you operate in one?
- How do you respond to your significant other?
- What are the type of values and discipline you instill in your kids?
- Are you still broken from the past failed expectations you had in the ones you loved the most?
- Are you vindictive or have resentment?
- Are you still holding on to the past and tend to suffer with trust issues?
There are so many different elements as to why we love in the way that we do or fail to love at all. Accountability involves identifying the trouble areas and making the conscious decisions to improve. Most importantly to become aware and acknowledge the fact that real love must first come from within before it can be distributed amongst others.
Explore Your Options
Whether you truly believe it or not we all have options
No situation is set in stone and has the ability to change
Whether it’s in your personal life, friendships, and relationships or even within the workplace
You have the power and freedom to voice your opinion and make the necessary adjustments
The worst thing we can do as individuals is to settle and accept less than what we deserve in all aspects of life
If it no longer serves you, you have the option to move on
Protect your wellbeing while keeping your best interest at heart
Not all decisions we make in life will reflect immediate change, but it shows substance
We must let go of the fear that we’re incapable of change due to our circumstances or the lack of resources
There will always be a better opportunity that awaits you
Exhaust all the possibilities the world has to offer
Ask for that raise or step out on faith to pursue your dreams
Sincere and loyal people still exist
Walk away from toxicity because it will destroy you
Choose your happiness above all
There will always be alternate routes you can take in order to get to the next level
Just because 1 thing fails; everything is not lost
Always keep your options open and know that you have the power over your life and not others
Message of the Day
Sometimes “failure” is inevitable. When we fall short of something we want to accomplish it doesn’t mean we’re incapable. It just means at that current time we didn’t have the means to reach our greatest potential whether it being the lack of knowledge or resources. That’s the beauty of not giving up and trying over and over again until we finally get it right. You may not succeed the first time but the second go round you’re able to develop a plan to take a different course of action. Just remember if it’s worth it, it won’t always come easy. Keep the faith and keep hope alive. The only way to triumph is to never give up.
THE ASPECTS OF LOVE… LOVE IS
Love is so much more than a feeling or physical attraction.
Love is a connection on deeper levels
Love is patience, love is selfless and love ever evolving
Love is a process that requires work and dedication like anything else in order to grow
Love is strengthened through communication
Love is being considerate
Love is building a foundation and support system
Love forms a team that wants to see one another win
Love is caring for someone just as much as your care for yourself
Love brings out the best in you
Love go through different phrases
Love is commitment on a higher level
Love is a union that transforms into a partnership
Love lifts you up instead of tearing you down
Love is a learning process and love is an adjustment
Love is NOT perfect but with the right individual love is certainly worth it
Love is acceptance and embracing your flaws
Love is prioritizing your wants and your needs
Love is a compromise
Love involves self-care and self-honesty
Love is an appreciation
Love is a whole lot of things but love from another shouldn’t define you
The love you possess for yourself should carry you even amid your darkest times
Love evolves around the stability of your well being
Love doesn’t come with a handbook so there is no concrete direction
Love simply comes from living and learning
Learn to love and improve yourself before you attempt perfection for someone else
THE DEPTHS OF HONESTY
Today’s topic is honesty. Oh how much better the world would be if we all were honest with not only ourselves but others as well.
When you think of honesty what comes to mind? For me, honesty is being very expressive whether it’s with words or with actions. Honesty is a representation of one’s character and beliefs. I’m sure we’ve all heard of or maybe even used the saying “I lie to you because I love you or I didn’t want to hurt you” right? This is partially true and I am guilty of being on the other end of the spectrum a time or two in my life. While we may think we are protecting someone by hiding the truth it only causes more damage in end to both parties involved.
The reality is the truth hurts far less than a lie; especially if it’s coming from someone that you love and trust. The fear of not being honest often times come from a person’s inability to accept their truth for what it is and be selfless. We often think that fabricating the truth will spare a person’s feelings. However, you must ask yourself Is sparing someone’s feelings more important than having the decency and respect to be an upstanding individual regardless of the outcome? Instead we focus more on our own guilt and karma than the consideration of the affects our actions may cause. The fear of the repercussions plays a major role as well.
Self-Honesty
Now switching gears to self-honesty. Personally, I think the most difficult aspect of honesty is being honest with ourselves. Self-honesty is essential when it comes to the overall growth of an individual. Now how many of us are willing to admit that we’ve run from the truth at some point in our life? *Hands up* ✋🏾 Yes, I am guilty of this as well. The hardest part about self-honesty is acceptance. Whether it’s the realization that it’s time to move on from certain situations, dealing with emotional or physical traits, or anything else that may be stopping you from reaching new heights. In most cases this is when it’s imperative for someone on the outside looking in to bring awareness to your faults. It is easy to train our minds to ignore our own voice even when we look in the mirror. The different perspectives through our eyes versus others creates the happy medium required for validation. We must learn to embrace our truths while remaining positive in knowing that anything is subject to change.
The Outcome
The outcome of our truth is typically the main reason we avoid expressing or acknowledging it. Not everyone will be receptive to hearing the truth. It all depends on the extent of the situation that makes it difficult to process. Dishonesty can become a hindrance for some. If the news cuts deep enough it can further lead to the inability to trust, causing issues with future companionships and self love. All it takes is for one bad experience to have an everlasting affect. The time is now to choose to be genuine, considerate and clear with your communication. Avoid prolonging the inevitable and allow your conscience to be free.
The Unspoken Truth 