The Unspoken Truth
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Acceptance
Acceptance can be difficult depending on the aspect surrounding the situation(s). A lot of time we are in denial or disregard the plain truths when in reality the issue at hand is coming to terms with it. When it comes to acceptance the variance is wide spread. Let’s take yourself for instance, you are the first one to take awareness of the changes that takes place within your life but the last one to accept it for what it really is. In order to make changes for improvement you MUST first face the truth. Stop running from your problems and making excuses. Once that happens then its time to hold yourself or the people involved accountable. Take the necessary steps to resolve the loose ends that you’ve been avoiding for so long. If you want to see change then your actions has to be reflective of that vision in order to contribute to the process. You have the power and you have the control when it comes to the direction of your life and the people involved. Take the wheel and steer it towards the right path.
The End Goal
To live is to grow and to learn. Whether the outcome of your actions are good or bad there is always a lesson to be learned. Don’t be so quick to hold your head down and beat yourself up when you experience failures. Instead use your failures as stepping stones to get you to the next level. What you take away from it and how you apply it in the future is solely up to you. Strive to accomplish the goal and gain knowledge along the way. Find ways that force you to dig deeper and reach newer heights. It’s imperative not to remain in the same level of comfort that you’re accustomed to. Step out of that comfort zone, set new goals that seem impossible to reach and expand your horizons. Nothing comes to a dreamer but a dream so put your best foot forward and let’s put in the work! The possibilities are limitless.
The Best Things In Life Are Free (Wants vs Needs)
Sometimes we get caught up thinking that happiness is based upon the materialistic things we have in life. Yes it’s required for us to have the basic necessities in order to survive but don’t put too much emphasis on the things that you “want” and currently don’t have. Differentiating and fully understanding the significance of our wants and needs can be a constant battle. Often times the things we want aren’t the things we need and we can definitely do without. It is important to be grateful and thankful for all those things around you that add value to your life that are free. Stop stressing about the things that are appealing to the eye instead appreciate what you do have. When your season arrives it will consist of everything that’s meant for you. Until then embrace the now as things could be a lot worst.
Biggest Downfall
Learn to accept the fact that you play a major role in the reason why things aren’t going the way you want them to in your life. Your actions and how you carry yourself as an individual is reflective in the opportunities you receive and are blessed with. Always take into consideration your approach when faced with something that could be detrimental to your growth. Practice self control and be considerate of others at all times.
Change Your Thought Process
What we speak into the universe and over our lives often impacts us far greater than we imagine or care to admit for that matter. Let’s face it, we all have been a victims of our thoughts at some point or another. Personally if I train my mind to believe in the negative thoughts I will not push myself as hard as I would on a normal basis. This is simply because I have already ruled out the possibility of accomplishing the task at hand. Having that type of mentality is where the problem lies. We have to be cautious with the self-doubt we place within ourselves when it comes to the unfamiliarity of particular situations. We have to train our minds to believe that we are capable of achieving anything. A positive mindset often leads to a positive outcome in the end. Time to turn your “I can’t” into “I can and I will”
Trust The Process
Success doesn’t come without failure. Each journey is unique. It is our job to put in the work and do our best to prepare for any interruptions that may come along the way. Its not meant to be easy but with consistency and dedication it will be worth it. Believe in yourself and all of your abilities. If you fall down nine times get up ten. No one will take notice of what it takes for you to get to where you want to be, however it can be appreciated and celebrated by YOU. Despite the circumstances push through. Don’t give up and most certainly don’t give in. Your strength during the worst of times builds character so keep at it.
LADIES!!!
Everyone wants to be loved but at what cost? This post is for my ladies who give so much but receive so little in return at times. The purpose is to respect and be aware of your own self worth. Just to make a clear indication, this message will not apply to everyone.
Yes, I get it no one is perfect but that does not mean we have to accept degrading or harmful behavior. At some point in life we are all deserving of second chances but what happens when those second chances become repetitive? When it comes to men they will only put you through what you allow them to put you through. There will come a time when a person will run out of second chances. Your value and self respect should be your top priorities at all times. Never plead with someone to respect or value you. That’s a personal choice on their behalf.
Most importantly stop ignoring the obvious signs in hopes that things will improve. If you see potential, remember to take it for what it’s worth and not be misguided by it. You should never be in a situation where the weight of the world is on your shoulders alone with a significant other around.
Stay true to your standards and all that you stand for. Loving yourself enough to walk away from any relationship that no longer means you well is okay. I understand it becomes difficult when history is involved but there isn’t any reason you should accept less than what you deserve. Take time to heal and rebuild if needed. It’s imperative to love yourself more than you love the idea of being in a relationship.
The Time is Now
So what’s keeping you from stepping out on faith and going after certain things? Well we’ve all been guilty of saying it before “the timing isn’t right”. So when exactly is the time right? What factors are involved that gives you the comfort of saying ok now is the time?For me I can be quite the procrastinator when it comes to finalizing things and actually making decisions. I find myself pondering on ideas and creating unnecessary stress simply because I put too much emphasis on the different scenarios that can possibly take place. 90 percent of the time I delay a process that ends up being beneficial in the end. Whether I fail or succeed in trying something new there is a lesson to be learned. Trail and error gives us the ability to gain knowledge and have a better understanding for improvement purposes. Life is short. The tomorrow or the next time we so frequently speak of may never arrive. Therefore, the time is of the essence. Make sure you do your research and prepare for the movement you are attempting to make beforehand then go for it. You really do not have anything to lose. The time is NOW 
Who and What Do You Believe In?
Be a firm believer when it comes to your dreams and aspirations. Having a support system is great, however not everyone is given that luxury. Do not let the negativity and lack of support change your vision. As long as you believe in yourself then that’s all that matters.
So the question is do you believe in the doubts of others more than you believe in yourself?
Think about all the times you’ve shared your vision with someone and they didn’t have to same outlook as you. Did it alter your focus and make you question yourself? If so, let that be even more of a reason to accomplish your goals. Not to prove anyone wrong but to prove to yourself that you’re capable. Capable of accomplishing and excelling despite the odds being stacked against you.
Stay the course and stay focused. Your drive, patience, and faith determines your outcome. Always remember that you’re in control of the impact you allow outsiders to have. If you’re passionate about it then you owe it to yourself to pursue it.
Nightly Ritual
My nightly ritual before going to bed is to unwind. I take the time to decompress from the events of the day in preparation for tomorrow. Letting go and ending my night peacefully becomes my main focus. Nothing compares to your inner peace. You owe it yourself because no one else can provide it for you. Self care is the best form of care you can have in your life. Make it your priority!
The Unspoken Truth 