Love Languages

A love language is our very own unique way of being expressive in the manner in which we give and receive love. Love can be expressive through our actions, how we interact with others and conduct ourselves. A love language is more than the physical aspect of engaging with one another. Love is the energy we put into the universe and the affect it has on others.

A lot of people get so caught up in the materialistic aspect of love that they fail to realize that love comes in various forms. A dollar amount spent on material things doesn’t define a love. Giving a compliment, advice, or encouragement and genuinely caring about the wellbeing of others is a representation of love. Being active and attentive speak volumes. A love language is always receptive of the appreciation given from the receiving party. Instead of complaining, always try to be grateful and appreciative of those who at least attempt to show you they care. Sometimes we have our own perception of how love should be expressed then disregard the efforts being given.

The beauty of love languages is that they are different for every single one of us; some have good traits and others not so much. I truly believe that love languages stem way back to the beginning of time, which is our childhood. The love or lack of love we received from our immediate family, our peers inside and outside of the school was pivotal to our understanding and receiving of love.

As a child dealing with the lack of love often resulted in the constant desire to seek attention to fill the void that was missing. Even as an adult, some individuals find themselves chasing the things they never received growing up. Past experiences or the inexperience are the driven forces behind the way we interact others. The biggest burden we put upon ourselves is avoiding the past rather than attempting to heal and deal with those issues. This ultimately affects everyone we are connected to.

Have you ever stopped to evaluate your actions within your relationships?

• How do you operate in one?
• How do you respond to your significant other?
• What are the type of values and discipline you instill in your kids?
• Are you still broken from the past failed expectations you had in the ones you loved the most?
• Are you vindictive or have resentment?
• Are you still holding on to the past and tend to suffer with trust issues?

There are so many different elements as to why we love in the way that we do or fail to love at all. Accountability involves identifying the trouble areas and making the conscious decisions to improve. Most importantly to become aware and acknowledge the fact that real love must first come from within before it can be distributed amongst others.